Love the most important person in your life

Today is Valentine’s Day, and depending on how you feel about it, it is a great way to tell your partner how much you care or a great way to decry commercialism or it can make you feel sad and lonely about being single.

I want to put forward another idea- I would like this to be a day where you can celebrate and show love to the most important person in your life.

YOU!

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So many people are in a toxic hurtful relationship with themselves, especially with their bodies. They “HATE” this or that about themselves, they wish they looked like someone else and they have nasty toxic thoughts about themselves. (Yes toxic as negative thinking can play a role in physical health and definately has a role in mental health).

It seems that loving ourselves is the hardest of all things to love. However most people will readily love someone else despite the fact they may have a pot belly, back hair, uneven breasts or cellulite etc…

How do you do that? Well for me it was a process of telling myself I was gorgeous and showing love towards my body.  It wasn’t easy- it took years to be honest. But some of the things I did is to dress up and take myself out on dates, get pedicures, massages, buy myself a nice outfit, rub lotion onto my body and treat showering and bathing as a treat instead of a chore. After a while I did start loving my thighs, despite the fact they are huge because they are strong, powerful and shapely. I loved my huge bum because it feels so awesome. I started loving my legs which I always called trees because of their curves. I’m even slowly starting to love my belly despite the fact I want it to be smaller. Yes you can still love your body even if you want to make healthy changes to it.

My recommendations-Touch your body! Yes do it. Rub lotion in slowly and feel how amazing your body feels! Get pampering massages from professsionals (I would highly recommend a ha kuna massage). Stand in front of a mirror naked and tell yourself all the things you LOVE about your body. Let the negative thought that come to you wash away in the shower and hold onto those love thoughts. If you want to improve things in some small way develop a fitness routine doing things you love- for me it is cycling and recently swimming).

Less than 1% of the world has what society considers a “perfect” body. You don’t hold your partners up to those ideals so why subject yourself to them.

As that corny Whitney Houston song (Written by Michael Masser / Linda Creed) says:

“The greatest love of all

Is easy to achieve

Learning to love yourself

It is the greatest love of all”

Much love to you all on this Valentines Day

XOX Cherry

YOLO

Back when I was little the phrase was Carpe Diem-Seize the Day!

A good friend of mine is always saying YOLO so it is stuck in my head: You Only Live Once.
So simple yet so very true.

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If you take any notice of what I post on instagram and Facebook you will see I’ve been travelling a bit lately. In fact right now I’m on a yacht in the Greek Islands. Sounds amazing and it has been, but today the weather is bad and we are stuck in the main cabin so I have some time to write! 🙂
Last year I was offered the chance to take voluntary redundancy from my State Government day job where I was an Environmental Manager. A job that bored me into mental numbness. A job where my skills where not being used well and I spent a large amount of time thinking about burlesque and singing and absolutely anything else that would stop my brain turning into mush. I had tried to make more of my job but the public service can be very limiting and my job was a dead-end. Some of my colleagues in the same role had been doing the same job for 10+ years… The redundancy payout was good, and it seemed like a lifeline. A chance for change. Change has been a big part of my life for the last 5 years. I live in a different area, dress different, look different and do different things but that is another blog post. My job was the only thing that hadn’t changed.
So I applied and was accepted to take redundancy and negotiated a leaving date that was 8 months away, July 2013. It seemed like forever but I knew it would leave me time to plan.
So what to do next I thought?.
I could get another job in my field and have a great deposit for a flat.
So I started looking for a flat to buy. But… it was like something in me baulked at this decision.
I thought about other options. Perhaps travel. A change of career. Study.
Hmmm
What to do?
I thought about what I am good at. I am a good communicator, I am a confident public speaker and I am a good teacher. These are useful skills to set me up for a career change.
But first I thought TRAVEL! For the first time in my life I have Energy, Money AND Time. The trifecta and I plan to make the most of it.
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When I get back from this trip I don’t really know what I will do. I have a trip to South America booked for autumn 2004 but beyond that is the unknown.
Wow
Scary
But exciting!
I see so many possibilities. So many paths and doors that have exciting plans beyond them. For the first time in over a decade I have no idea where I am going or what the future has in store for me.
I am excited about what that future may hold.
But like I said Carpe Diem: I am going to enjoy the now! Summer in Sydney.
What a fabulous plan! 🙂
XC