Taking a leap into the unknown

“Life is a travelling to the edge of knowledge, then a leap taken.”
D. H. Lawrence

There seems to be an epidemic around people wanting to be sure, before they make a decision.
Perhaps it’s due to the fact these days we not only have so much choice- but also so much information at hand. Indecision grips us when we have so much choice. It is like a restaurant with a vast menu…

We can research on the internet, we can peruse dozens of sites to see the alternatives, we can dream of what might be better .

But when it comes down to it, when you wait too long, sometimes that opportunity is gone…

Take a leap into the unknown. Be courageous. I know that when you contemplate taking that leap fear can take hold.  Fear however holds you back from your true potential. It paralyses one with indecision and worry about the risk.

My day job involves assessing safety and other types of risks. I weigh the liklihood against the consequences to do this. Then you look at the cost of not acting. It is quite simple. With this in mind in the last few years I’ve changed jobs, sold most of my possessions, spent large sums of money travelling and moved houses.

The costs of not acting on dreams in your life- regrets. See the Top 10 regrets of the dying.

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I am determined to not have any more regrets.

The risk of the leap is possibly loss? Possibly. But I think you can never lose as long as you take a chance. Especially if the things to be gained are so worth the risk.

Live, Love, take risks and experience lots of Joy!

X Cherry

Love the most important person in your life

Today is Valentine’s Day, and depending on how you feel about it, it is a great way to tell your partner how much you care or a great way to decry commercialism or it can make you feel sad and lonely about being single.

I want to put forward another idea- I would like this to be a day where you can celebrate and show love to the most important person in your life.

YOU!

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So many people are in a toxic hurtful relationship with themselves, especially with their bodies. They “HATE” this or that about themselves, they wish they looked like someone else and they have nasty toxic thoughts about themselves. (Yes toxic as negative thinking can play a role in physical health and definately has a role in mental health).

It seems that loving ourselves is the hardest of all things to love. However most people will readily love someone else despite the fact they may have a pot belly, back hair, uneven breasts or cellulite etc…

How do you do that? Well for me it was a process of telling myself I was gorgeous and showing love towards my body.  It wasn’t easy- it took years to be honest. But some of the things I did is to dress up and take myself out on dates, get pedicures, massages, buy myself a nice outfit, rub lotion onto my body and treat showering and bathing as a treat instead of a chore. After a while I did start loving my thighs, despite the fact they are huge because they are strong, powerful and shapely. I loved my huge bum because it feels so awesome. I started loving my legs which I always called trees because of their curves. I’m even slowly starting to love my belly despite the fact I want it to be smaller. Yes you can still love your body even if you want to make healthy changes to it.

My recommendations-Touch your body! Yes do it. Rub lotion in slowly and feel how amazing your body feels! Get pampering massages from professsionals (I would highly recommend a ha kuna massage). Stand in front of a mirror naked and tell yourself all the things you LOVE about your body. Let the negative thought that come to you wash away in the shower and hold onto those love thoughts. If you want to improve things in some small way develop a fitness routine doing things you love- for me it is cycling and recently swimming).

Less than 1% of the world has what society considers a “perfect” body. You don’t hold your partners up to those ideals so why subject yourself to them.

As that corny Whitney Houston song (Written by Michael Masser / Linda Creed) says:

“The greatest love of all

Is easy to achieve

Learning to love yourself

It is the greatest love of all”

Much love to you all on this Valentines Day

XOX Cherry

YOLO

Back when I was little the phrase was Carpe Diem-Seize the Day!

A good friend of mine is always saying YOLO so it is stuck in my head: You Only Live Once.
So simple yet so very true.

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If you take any notice of what I post on instagram and Facebook you will see I’ve been travelling a bit lately. In fact right now I’m on a yacht in the Greek Islands. Sounds amazing and it has been, but today the weather is bad and we are stuck in the main cabin so I have some time to write! 🙂
Last year I was offered the chance to take voluntary redundancy from my State Government day job where I was an Environmental Manager. A job that bored me into mental numbness. A job where my skills where not being used well and I spent a large amount of time thinking about burlesque and singing and absolutely anything else that would stop my brain turning into mush. I had tried to make more of my job but the public service can be very limiting and my job was a dead-end. Some of my colleagues in the same role had been doing the same job for 10+ years… The redundancy payout was good, and it seemed like a lifeline. A chance for change. Change has been a big part of my life for the last 5 years. I live in a different area, dress different, look different and do different things but that is another blog post. My job was the only thing that hadn’t changed.
So I applied and was accepted to take redundancy and negotiated a leaving date that was 8 months away, July 2013. It seemed like forever but I knew it would leave me time to plan.
So what to do next I thought?.
I could get another job in my field and have a great deposit for a flat.
So I started looking for a flat to buy. But… it was like something in me baulked at this decision.
I thought about other options. Perhaps travel. A change of career. Study.
Hmmm
What to do?
I thought about what I am good at. I am a good communicator, I am a confident public speaker and I am a good teacher. These are useful skills to set me up for a career change.
But first I thought TRAVEL! For the first time in my life I have Energy, Money AND Time. The trifecta and I plan to make the most of it.
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When I get back from this trip I don’t really know what I will do. I have a trip to South America booked for autumn 2004 but beyond that is the unknown.
Wow
Scary
But exciting!
I see so many possibilities. So many paths and doors that have exciting plans beyond them. For the first time in over a decade I have no idea where I am going or what the future has in store for me.
I am excited about what that future may hold.
But like I said Carpe Diem: I am going to enjoy the now! Summer in Sydney.
What a fabulous plan! 🙂
XC

How to get a Bikini Body

I was recently in the Northern Territory at Litchfield and Kakadu National Park  and one of the things i loved was swimming in fresh water rivers and under waterfalls.

Sitting on the riverbank I noticed something. All the thin young women were in bikinis. They looked so free and happy in them.
However all the bigger women and older ladies were in navy (navy blue is the new balck?) swimsuits and even shorts and t-shirts. I suddenly got pissed off. I was in a navy swimsuit, that didn’t really fit and I wanted to wear a bikini!
So I was determined to get a bikini but my efforts to buy one in Sydney were thwarted because of a lack of time and so I went shopping in London at Bravissimo. I must have tried on every one in the store and in desperation the girl even broke out the new stock but I found 2 I liked!
Yesterday in Croatia I finally got to wear it.
What a JOY!
I also noticed many women around me; young, old, thin, fat, tan, etc etc all wearing them and in bright colours.
Amazing. For the first time I was wearing a swimming costume (or cossie as we call them in Australia) that fit and supported me!
So here are some pics and a video.
Pics! (Yes it is blue- but it is cute and I also have a pink one) 🙂
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And as those memes all say-
How do you get a bikini body. You simply buy a bikini and put it on your body!

Why I hate before and after pics.

Over the last 9 months I have been losing weight. Actively not accidentally. Not by starving myself or dieting. But by simply looking after myself more. It’s not been easy for many reasons. I’ve done it for personal reasons related to hereditary health conditions. It’s really no-ones business why and unless you are a close friend it’s really not up for discussion.

It’s been slow but the improvements to my health are already showing. People have started to notice the changes to my body too.

However you won’t see me posting before and after pictures here or posting pics on Facebook showing how much I have lost.

There are many reasons for this. Personally I think before and after pictures are a world-class rort. The before usually unflattering and poorly lit/clothed. After with nice clothes makeup etc…

Another is that a lot of people are perfectly healthy at a bigger size. Body size and health are not in my belief always related. I am a big supporter of the Health at Any Size Community.

And finally these before and after pictures are trying to say that look at the hideous creature before and look how amazing she looks now… But you know what, I think my body looks pretty fucking awesome no matter what size I am! It is strong, capable, curvaceous, has the ability to cycle 40km,  move furniture and give my 8-year-old Niece piggy backs! 🙂 So I won’t post any pictures comparing myself negatively to myselfImage

Pic by http://www.duskdevi.com  This happens to be me near my biggest and it also happens to be one of my favourite ever images.

For the people who comment how much they love my body- well don’t worry I am never going to be skinny. 😛 I have a large frame, very wide hip bones and a high muscle mass. After many years I’ve come to accept it, and I like it that way!

Going to America!

Well as some of you may know I am heading the the USA for a couple of weeks! This Sat! I can’t believe it. Who wants to drive me to the airport 😉

First stop I will be a few days in LA and will finish be seeing Strip Strip Hooray. It will be great to make up my own mind about the hype that is Dita.

Mostly I am looking forward to seeing my favourite performer Dirty Martini perform again! Eeeeee!

Then I am really excited to go to the Burlesque Hall of Fame, especially to see the legends perform! I have a feeling I will not be getting much sleep and will undoubtably punish my liver. Over 25 Aussies are going to BHOF AND TWO will be performing, both Sydneysiders! Our own Queen of Burlesque Imogen Kelly competing in the MISS EXOTIC WORLD 2012, REIGNING QUEEN OF BURLESQUE  and Briana Bluebell in the Movers, Shakers and Innovators.  Las Vegas doesn’t know what is about to hit them!

After LA myself, Alyssa Kitt, The Diamond Dahlia and Bella De Jac will be heading to San Francisco. One of my favourite cities! I am looking forward to heading back to the Ghiradelli Square for some free chocolate samples- and stock up on one of my fav chocolates (and the only American Chocolate I like), eat some seafood chowder on the wharf, shopping and much much more.
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AND i will be making my international debut at none other than San Francisco’s famous Hubba Hubba Revue! Monday the 4th June at Uptown Nightclub in Oakland. I hear it is a mini Aussie Invasion also featuring Alyssa Kitt, Bella de Jac and The Diamond Dahlia. I am not sure what San Fran has done to deserve such gorgeous ladies but they are in for a treat! Jim Sweeney you better prepare your crowd well 😉

Then a couple of days later I at Red Hots Burlesque run by the lovely supportive gorgeous Dottie Lux. I received such a warm response when I first enquired about performing for her that I am excited just to meet her!

THEN I will be performing in none other than the Peel in NYC!!! Yes one of the shows I started at (I performed at the very first Peel) is on at Coney Island- Burlesque at the Beach. It is on the 7th June. My excitement levels are at near explosion point even typing all of this!

SO if you are anywhere near San Francisco or Coney Island you will have to get to one or all of these shows. Trust me. Book your flights etc NOW! 🙂 If you mention my blog I promise to give you a big hug 😀

Whew. So I promise to try to keep you up to date as the trip progresses. Well you can at least catch my drunken ramblings that are sure to be made on my FB fan page here: https://www.facebook.com/mscherrylush Better like me if you want to hear it all!

My last few days in Sydney are jam packed as well. Wed night I will be the door bitch with the mostest at The Peel – I love NY. So many lovely newcomers to the scene will be performing- and this is on of the places I started so you might just see the next Cherry Lush.  Well who am I kidding there will never be another Cherry Lush… 😉 Oh by the way I hear The Peel has a new website that features lil ol me! http://thepeel.net.au/ Check it out.

Then on Friday night I will be performing at the one and only Pretty Peepers Cabaret.  https://www.facebook.com/events/162752463851663/ As they say this is a untraditional cabaret so you never know what you are going to get. All I can promise is that I may make you wet. No not that way!!! Well maybe… 🙂

Yes a lot of !!! are in this post- but if you can’t tell I’m a bit excited 😀

See you my lovelies! XOX

Upcoming Gigs April & May

I have been trying to write a post telling you all about the great time I had in Adelaide but it is still not finished yet! 😦

So just to keep you updated here are my upcoming gigs for April and May. Then at the end of May I head to the USA to the Burlesque Hall of Fame! Just as an audience member this time 🙂 I can’t wait, it is going to be a blast. Don’t worry I will tell you all about it. Well maybe not all- because as you know: “What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas!” 

Back to the shows: I have had a little rest and am ready to hit it! It is a very mixed bag and it starts tomorrow night Friday 13th April at one of my favourite shows 34B. Leave all your impressions of Friday the 13th behind as this show is going to be a bevy of, ah behinds! 😉

34B Sin City https://www.facebook.com/events/341161945920618/


Then on Sunday 15th April is another show that is rather special to me Ruby Revue. It was a few years ago now that I was dobbed in to sing at the end of one of the shows as they do every month. It was the first time I had been on a stage since high school. Once the spot light hit me and the crowd started cheering, I knew that being in that spotlight was where I wanted to be (I won that night of course). It is the last show at the Arthouse so come on down watch me and buy me a drink! 🙂 https://www.facebook.com/events/310695865667661/

Later this month I will be performing a brand new very dirty number at Moist at the Imperial Hotel. It is on Friday 25th April. If you want a clue about what the show is about watch this video 🙂 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2MHlmesdoA

On Monday the 21st May I will be modelling and performing at Dr Sketchy’s- Newtown. Now Dr Sketchy’s when I model is no serious event. Expect me to be naughty and talk back- I am never a silent model 🙂

Finally I will perform at another of my favourite shows! Pretty Peepers Cabaret at the Imperial Hotel on Friday May 25th. Another naughty show! Oh I think I sense a theme here? Am I a bit naughty??? 😉

Hope to see you at one or more of these!!!

XOX